Continuing the List: Chivalry

     The thing I miss the most about the South is chivalry. When I see it and benefit from it here in the PNW, I am quickly reminded that it's more rare than an I-don't-do-coffee Washingtonian.
     This morning, with my Tully's in hand (because Starbucks is still closed for remodeling), the elevator door opened to me - on the ground floor.  Inside were two colleagues.  When they didn't get off, I boarded the elevator and asked with a smile, "What are you two doing? Taking joy rides?"
     "She wouldn't get off before me ...," the guy said.  Apparently she refused his chivalry - thus the elevator closed and came down to get me.
     "Ahh, chivalry... we need to take appreciate it when it's offered, and guy here is exceptional at showing chivalry," I said.
     For the last 15 months, I have thoroughly enjoyed guy's manners - always holding the door, being polite, treating me like a lady.  Oh I do miss some good old Southern gentleman chivalry - the kind who give you their seat or wait for you to start eating before they do or stand when you leave the table or pump your gas (thank you Wade for teaching me all of these!).
     "I want equal pay!" the woman in the elevator retorted.
     "So do I, but take the chivalry!"
     Letting a man treat you like a woman is a sign of respect for yourself and for his offering.  It doesn't make you less weak - accepting some one's kindness is a sign of grace and class.  Those are the first two requirements for being a lady.
     Thank you, guy on the elevator - raised in Detroit - schooled in the South - transplanted to Seattle - for your chivalry.  It makes my day, every day!

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